Abusive Fiancé Finally Shows His True Colors– Reddit Tells Mom To Run

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SamHaKosem
Jul 16, 2022 4:00 PM EDT

Every day we read a post on the internet where someone comes and posts about an ordinary, everyday problem they're having. Except, maybe two or three times out of ten, the situation that this person is describing as ordinary is anything but. A lot of the time, these people are in potentially abusive, toxic, and harmful relationships and situations. With some of these posts, the people should really be looking for a way out as opposed to a way to solve the problem, and this post we saw today was no exception. 

The person who posted for advice this week is a concerned mother to a very sweet, very smart twelve year old girl. The woman claims her daughter is her everything, but she also has recently brought a new fiancé into the mix. The man moved into Mom and Daughter's house, and he's helping with the rent (a bit), but not enough to act like he owns the place. Except, that's exactly what he started to do when he refused to let the daughter hang a picture of her dear, deceased dog Tic on the wall. This jerk even had the audacity to take the picture down, and yell at the girl while Mom was out of the house, telling her to keep it in her room or there would be consequences– never mind the fact that the daughter has lived there for much longer than he has! Thankfully, Mom turned to Reddit to figure out how to clear the air after the fight, and Reddit rightfully told her to just clear out instead. These commenters decisively said that t's time to decide whether she cares more about her daughter or this man, and it should not be a hard decision. See what we mean down below! 

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  • 01

    She Sounds Like A Great Mom!

    Font - Me [F34 and my fiance [M36 got engaged 2 months ago. I own the house we currently live in but after he moved in he started helping out with the mortgage payment. I have a daughter [Ruby, F12, she adores animals (she had about 7 pets so far in her life). Unfortunately, her dog Tic passed away. He was her closest friend and favorite pet. It was devastating for me as well because he was so precious. As a way to honor him, I've printed a middle sized picture of him (Ruby's favorite) and put i
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    If anyone reading this has ever lost a pet, especially a pet that was with you in those incredibly formative years of your life, you know how hard this must be for this little girl. But, that's why we love what Mom did in order to make her daughter feel comfortable. 

  • 02

    That's Not That Strange, Is It?

    Font - My fiance saw it and got upset. He commented on how strange it was to have the dog's picture up on the wall and how much of distraction it brings. I felt puzzled because we have all kinds of pictures that were hanging on that wall. He suggested we remove it but I ignored him. One day, I got home and saw that he's taken it down. Ruby was in her room crying holding the picture. I asked what happened and she told me that my fiance took the picture off and told her she's not allowed to have i
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    This whole relationship sounds pretty toxic, wouldn't you agree? The fiancé is trying to micromanage the daughter, and the Mother is taking revenge on her fiancé in their own, shared house. In this situation, yes, we feel like the fiancé is in the wrong. But, Mom is going to have to take a good, long look at her own actions after this as well. 

  • 03

    Good, Might As Well Not Speak To Him

    Font - He's been giving both me and Ruby the cold shoulder for days now saying he out speak to neither of us til we apologize and put those certificates back up on the wall ourselves.
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  • 04

    No One Should Live This Way

    Font - Impossible-Pause3788 3 days ago Professor Emeritass [99] NTA. He doesn't want equal say- he wants a dictatorship. It's clear that he will continue to hurt your daughter behind your back. I would reevaluate my relationship. 34.6k Give Award Share Report Save Follow 4 & 5 More ThrowRAsp677 OP 3 days ago He told me it's his house too now so he should be able to have a say in it. I find this illogical because he's only paid a 2 months worth of mortgage unlike me who put all my savings and sol
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  • 05

    Life Won't Be Pretty, We Can Say That Much

    Rectangle - WhoKnewHomesteading 3 days ago edited 3 days ago Partassipant [1] He is trying to take over what you have achieved. You need to think hard about what life will look like for you and your daughter going forward is this is only 2 months in. What is her emotional well being worth to you? 9 5
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  • 06

    Keep Those Bills Separate

    Rectangle - LexifromZargon. 3 days ago NTA make sure to not put his name on ANYTHING and maybe put it in writting that his part of the morgage is more like rent so just in case he cant claim he owns part of the house 1.5k Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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  • 07

    He Literally Threatened A Child

    Rectangle - awyllt 3 days ago Pooperintendant [67] ΝΤΑ He took a picture of your grieving child's dog, threatened her, told you that your house is also his, yelled at you and demanded an apology. If you marry this abusive man, you and your daughter are going to have a miserable life. 12.6k Give Award Share Report Save Follow
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  • 08

    Pick The Daughter Over The Guy

    Rectangle - (2) MissRiss 3 days ago Also, please know your daughter WILL grow up and remember that this man mattered more to you than she did - unless you show her that's not true. Sticking around in this scenario may also have an unintended impact on her future relationships... do you really want her to land in a relationship like the one you have with your fiance? Give Award Share Report Save Follow 1.8k
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  • 09

    There's No Sticking By Someone Like This

    Smile - Goddess_Hylia2001 3 days ago NTA for taking down his certificates, but YWBTA if you stay with a man who literally threatened a 12 year old child to throw away a picture of a recently deceased animal. Give Award Share Report Save Follow 7.2k
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  • 10

    Serious Red Flags Everywhere

    Font - CrystalQueen3000 3 days ago Craptain [183] This is so concerning. He took down the picture and threatened a 12 year old that she'd lose it permanently if she didn't keep it in her room rather than on the wall in a common area in her own house. If this is indicative of the way he is with her when you're not around then I'd boot him out of your life ASAP. Speak to Ruby and have a heart to heart, ask her what he's like when you're not there because this story is waving a whole bunch of red f
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